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An Ambitious Woman's Guide to Building Self-Discipline

Monday, February 13, 2023

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What Sets Discipline Apart From Motivation

Hey Sis, are you feeling stuck between motivation and discipline? It's time to set the record straight! Self-discipline is about taking action and living life by design, not by default. It's about pushing through resistance and acting in accordance with your thoughts, not your feelings. But what sets it apart from motivation? Motivation is your overall desire to do something, while discipline is your ability to follow through regardless of how you feel. Building self-discipline is crucial for reaching your long-term goals and I got the tips to help you get there. So let's dive in and discover the six important strategies for building your self-discipline! Ready?

Focus On Your Identity

When I was trying to change my habits, I learned to focus on my identity instead of just the goal. I discovered this concept in James Clear's book "Atomic Habits" and it really spoke to me. (Absolutely love this book) The book talks about the difference between saying "I'm trying to quit smoking" versus "I'm not a smoker." The latter signals a shift in identity and a belief in a new, improved version of yourself.

I decided to apply this to my own life. I remember when I first started out as a productivity coach. I was filled with excitement and a bit of nervousness about the journey ahead. But one thing I knew for sure was that I was determined to help others transform their lives through better productivity practices. So, I did something that may seem small, but it made a huge difference for me. I started telling myself that I was a productivity coach. I repeated it every morning and every night, until it became a part of my identity. And you know what? It worked. Before long, I had clients coming to me for guidance and support, and I was able to help them achieve their goals and become more productive. So, if you're looking to make a change in your life, try starting with your identity. Believe in yourself, and the rest will follow.

Why it matters

Let’s talk about whys! Frequently remind yourself of why you're being disciplined in the first place. At the end of the day, we have to have a strong why for our actions if we want to do them consistently.

Marie Forleo is a prime example of someone who never lost sight of her "why." Even though she worked odd jobs for seven years, she never lost faith in her ultimate goal of becoming a successful entrepreneur. She knew why she was building self-discipline and putting in the work day in and day out. That unwavering focus on her "why" is what helped her eventually become the successful businesswoman and motivational speaker she is today.

To channel your inner Marie, consider writing down your own "why" and keeping it somewhere visible as a daily reminder of what you're working towards. Trust me, it will keep you motivated and disciplined even on the toughest of days. So, grab a cute notebook, write down your "why" and keep it close by - whether it's in your bag or on your vision board (which i have a template for that you can grab). Trust me, seeing that constant reminder of your purpose will keep you motivated and on track.


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Embracing discomfort

You know what, as a Hustle Bae myself, I can relate to the struggle of getting out of our comfort zones. But the truth is, every time we push ourselves to do something even when we don't feel like it, we're building our self-discipline muscle. Think of it like working out - the more we do it, the stronger we get. And trust me, having strong self-discipline will pay off in all areas of our lives.

For me, I started small. I used to hate waking up early enough not to just jump into my day, but now I make it a point to get up at least a few hours before. This gives me time to meditate, plan my day, and just have a moment of peace before the chaos begins. It wasn't easy at first, but now I can't imagine starting my day any other way. And the best part? Now I have the discipline to tackle my to-do list with ease.

So, I encourage you to find your own ways to embrace discomfort. It could be trying a new workout routine, waking up early to meditate, or taking on a new challenge at work. Every time your brain says "I don't feel like it," that's your cue to build your self-discipline muscle and push past the resistance.

Focus on the fundamentals

Okay girl, let's talk about the next topic on this list in our self-discipline journey, focusing on the fundamentals. Thats right, back to basics. And by fundamentals, I mean sleep, nutrition, and exercise. It might sound boring, but trust me, these three things are the foundation of your ability to have self-discipline.

Think of it this way, your brain is like the SH-EO of your body. It's responsible for all the big decisions, like whether to hit snooze or get up and hit the gym. But just like any SH-CEO, your brain needs the right resources to perform at its best. That means it needs proper sleep, some healthy food, and a little physical activity to keep it in tip-top shape.

Now, I know it's tempting to believe that the brain operates on pure willpower and determination, but let's be real, it's just a fancy collection of neurons and synapses that need proper care and maintenance. So, if you're finding yourself struggling with self-discipline, take a step back and assess the basics. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you fueling your body with the right nutrients? Are you getting in some physical activity each day? If the answer to any of those questions is no, then that's where you should focus your discipline first. Thank me later.

Imagine a world where you never slept. How would that look? You'd probably be a walking zombie, constantly feeling exhausted, irritable, and unable to focus on anything. Not only would you be completely unable to perform even the simplest of tasks, but your self-discipline would be completely shot.

Think about it, self-discipline is all about leaning into resistance and taking action in spite of how you feel. But if you never slept, how could you possibly find the energy or motivation to do anything? You'd be too busy trying to keep your eyes open, let alone tackle anything that requires effort or focus.

Sleep is crucial for the function of your brain, and without it, you'll be unable to regulate your desires and impulses. This means that your self-discipline will suffer, and you won't be able to follow through on even the most basic of tasks. So if you want to be the most productive, disciplined, and successful version of yourself, make sure you're getting plenty of quality sleep. Your brain and future you will thank you later!


Meditation is one of those things that you either love or hate, there's really no in between. But even if you're in the latter camp, hear me out. Meditation has been shown to boost self-discipline, and it's something I've personally found helpful in my journey as a Productivity Coach. In Chris Bailey's book, "The Productivity Project,"(another book I recommend 10/10) he talks about the different forms of meditation, from guided meditations on apps like Headspace and Calm, to simply sitting and focusing on your breath like I do with my own zen meditation practice.

I know, I know, meditation might seem boring or even a little "dumb" to some of you, but give it a chance. When you sit and focus your mind, even just for a few minutes a day, you're giving your brain a much-needed break from the constant barrage of stimuli it's bombarded with. And when your brain is refreshed and recharged, you'll find it easier to regulate your emotions and make rational decisions, which are crucial for maintaining self-discipline. So, even if you think you're not a "meditation type," give it a shot and see if it works for you!

Building new habits

All in all practicing building new habits is such a powerful tool for boosting your self-discipline. It's like hitting two birds with one stone! But starting small is key, because let's face it, trying to overhaul your entire life at once can be overwhelming. So choose one habit you'd like to establish, set a realistic goal, and track your progress along the way. And when you reach a milestone, celebrate it! Whether it's a simple pat on the back or treating yourself to something you've been wanting, acknowledging your progress will keep you motivated.

But don't stress too much over perfection. It's okay if you slip up, the important thing is that you're moving in the right direction. With time and persistence, that new habit will become a part of your daily routine, and your self-discipline will be stronger because of it. Just like how muscles grow stronger with repetition, your discipline muscle will also grow stronger with each new habit you establish. So go ahead, give it a try!

Building self-discipline is a journey that takes time and effort, but it's totally worth it in the end. From focusing on the fundamentals, embracing discomfort, practicing mindfulness through meditation, and building new habits, there are many strategies you can use to boost your self-discipline and achieve your goals. Remember, it's all about taking small steps, celebrating your wins, and not giving up on the journey. So grab your vision board template, put on your gym shoes, and let's get to work on becoming the most disciplined versions of ourselves! Make future you proud.


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Hi, I Am
Malika Manelva

CEO Of The Blueprint Process

As a dedicated productivity coach for women, I empower my clients to take control of their lives and reach their full potential. With a combination of training, experience and passion, I offer practical strategies to help women improve their work-life balance, achieve their professional goals and live a more fulfilling life. My goal is to help you achieve success.

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